The first 48 hours for me post birth is a bit like settling into a foreign holiday destination. You have looked forward to it for such a long time. You have visualised it, planned it, packed a bag for it and now you are finally there! You feel a bit woozy from the travel and a bit disorientated. The excitement and relief at reaching your destination is amazing but you still haven’t quite got your bearings. Like when you arrive at your holiday hotel abroad, you need to explore and suss things out.
‘How long have you got to go?’ This is a question that I am being asked several times a day at the moment. Also, ‘You’re still here then!’ Sometimes the same people ask me the same question the very next day would you believe. I find it quite amusing and realise that it just a part of daily small talk. I have a sizable bump and so it seems the natural question to ask. As this is my fourth baby, I am quite used to the constant looks of concern that I receive and the ‘are you feeling tired?’ suggestive questions.
One thing that people have found quite interesting about my pregnancy is that I’m not scared of giving birth. It’s never scared me and I’m pleased that it has always been that way. I’ve watched One Born Every Minute in utter wonderment (compared to some of my friends who cannot physically look at the screen!) and the process of giving birth has filled me with more excitement rather than fear.
The main reason (among others) for me accomplishing my training and becoming a Babies in Waiting practitioner is the birth of our third child, Ayla.
I am not bohemian or at all hippy. I have never had hypnotherapy to give up smoking or to over come a phobia. I wasn’t absolutely sure that the whole “hypnobirthing’ idea wasn’t just ‘a bit too good to be true’ in the beginning. I did have an open mind and desperation to have the power to change how I gave birth to my baby this time around.
Baby number four is cooking away nicely and we have reached one of my favourite milestones...30 weeks! This is the point for me where the excitement really starts to build and full on nesting takes over. Baby is now the size of a cabbage! Movements are visible from the outside and my 3 year old frequently asks 'why are you so fat Mummy?' and 'what was your tummy like before a baby got into it?' haha!
Some people view labour as a cruel trick of nature and as something that women ‘have to get through’ in order to have a baby. If there is anyone reading this that actually feels this way then we need to meet!
I firmly believe it is the most amazing treat a woman ever experiences.
When you think of having a treat, what comes to mind? Eating a chocolate bar, having a posh meal, being bought a bunch of flowers or date night with the other half?
“What on earth is that?”
This was my initial thought as I walked into my 3rd Ante-Natal class with Babies in Waiting (BIW); in fact I think a said that aloud. Today BIW had on display a prop which made me think tonight I was in for a lesson.
Going through the journey of childbirth is a daunting path into the unknown. For many people, this path starts you on a rollercoaster of emotions.
Many women enter with feelings of anxiety, and watching the majority of documentaries broadcast on television, who can blame them?
I too was led to believe that the birthing process is often an arduous and painful test for anyone to endure.
But I don't have a fear of bearing a child and the enduring task of nurturing a baby from initial conception... and nor will I.
Because I'm a man.